Japanese dating manners
I’m currently the only Western female student here, so I get quite some attention, even from other foreign students.But Japanese guys are still a big mystery to me’, she writes.To be fair, I used to feel that most kids of my age weren’t mature enough.I am less judgemental now because I realise that I might simply have had a differently way of measuring maturity. Isabel, a German girl who has been living in Japan for about half a year, is a good example.
The book ended with telling him that I was still willing to date him even though he turned me down with this obvious excuse of working in the same team. I want her to stop doing embarrassing things in front of people but I don’t know how. Hopefully it will stop as time goes by.’ She was giving emotional gifts he couldn’t reciprocate, and that put him under a lot of pressure and made him uneasy.
I’m not saying he should adapt himself completely; it’s ultimately his choice.
He might just not be compatible with the majority of Japanese girls.
He might be judging Japanese women based on his cultural values without taking into account the Japanese context.
Since he didn’t specify what made him think that girls of his age were childish I can only speculate, but if he doesn’t make effort to unlearn his cultural values and learn new sets of values, he is likely to continue having difficulty.
But such an emotionally loaded gift would only work if he was already madly in love with her.